My mission here at the Home of Belonging is a simple one: I want to help thousands of wannabe courageous rebels, untangle their Human Pretzel and belong to themselves. Belonging to yourself is like coming home; home to that cosy chair by the fire, home to your best fluffy socks and home to 100% no bra!
Most of us have learnt to be Human Pretzels, twisting ourselves into all sorts of shapes to fit in. Complying with expectations for the comfort of others, just for us to feel some sense of belonging. But this isn’t real belonging!
Real belonging is being courageous enough every day to be all of you, no matter what, where and who with. It’s not having your belonging held to ransom by other people’s willingness or ability to accept you as you are (the Patriarchy anyone?). It’s building a home of belonging within yourself.
The details are unimportant and not only mine to share, but between 2009 and 2015 life went to shit and I had to rebuild my life again from scratch. But the thing about rebuilding is that you get to choose which bits of your house you want to keep, which bits you want to renovate and which bits you’re throwing out entirely. And I did just that, I rebuilt my home of belonging one bloody brick at a time!
Looking back, I don’t think I ever felt a real sense of belonging until realised I was looking in the wrong places - outside of myself! My journey home has been a huge one and it’s definitely not over yet. Sometimes it’s been a hard slog through drying concrete and other times it’s been a delightful skip down the garden path, but it’s a journey I wouldn’t trade for anything.
One of the high points was training and becoming an internationally certified life coach, hands down it is the best decision I have made in the last 5 years! In my practice I get to work with amazing fellow Human Pretzels who have decided it’s time to reclaim their courageous rebel and build their home of belonging, and it’s the BEST – JOB – EVER!
If you’re ready to build your home of belonging, I’d love to talk to you my friend!
Most of my life I've been a bit of a dichotomy. On the one hand I’m not one for convention, as a kid I was a bit of a rebel, quite comfortable with taking risks and doing things my way. On the other hand, I have conformed in A BIG WAY. Over the course of my adult life I twisted myself into every shape of Human Pretzel possible, just to fit in. I have been, done and said many things that I thought everyone else wanted or needed me to be, do or say; all in the name being accepted or acceptable to other people.
My life was pretty ticketyboo for years. I left school, ended up in a well-paid career, bought the big family house in the New Forest, got married and divorced (twice!), had two kids and I’m sure from the outside it all looked fabulous. But under the surface there was always that rebellious kid that wanted to do things differently and I spent much of my 30s in an internal tug of war with her (manifesting as some pretty self-sabotaging and unhelpful behaviour).
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Hit rock emotional bottom after 5 yrs of repressing a whole ton of shit. Got help.
Divorced terrible human that was ex-husband. It's fair to say it wasn't amicable.
Relocated to Bristol from Bournemouth. Loved the city's culture, missed the seaside.
Graduated as a life coach from BYCA, attended Inspiration Day in San Francisco with BYCA.
Started my coaching biz alongside my corporate gig. Originally called "Parfait not Perfect".
Started new full-time corporate (v stressful) role. Trained in Transcendental Meditation.
Added Kinesiology & Bach Flower Remedies to my qualifications. Emotional = physical healing.
Build in-person soul community, Human Pretzel quiz, short courses, self-coaching tools.
I bloody love my job working with one-to-one clients on their Human Pretzelness.
Left corporate life to go "all in" in my biz and for health reasons. Claimed my Belonging niche.
Ice skate through gorky park in moscow
climb the three peaks in the uk
enter a weightlifting competition
visit every continent in the world
see the northern lights
do an rv trip around the united states
climb to the top of the eiffel tower
visit the pyramids at giza in egypt
change something shitty in the world
get my masters degree
walk the great wall of china
live in a foreign country
visit niagara falls
publish a book
fall in love again
fly over the grand canyon
So my friend, do you think you're more PRETZEL than REBEL or vice versa?
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